How to Have A Mind Blowing O
I don’t know how they are doing it on TV or in movies like 50 Shades of Grey, but it seems like they can get an orgasm by just looking at the other person. Oh there is one. Oooooppppssss, there is another one! Come on people, we know better! It doesn’t happen that easy. Having an orgasm requires concentration, trust, lucky, some interesting positions, weird faces, even weirder noises, and a combination of thereof.
Glamour recently sat down with sex educator Jenny Block, Ph.D., to reveal six of her best tricks to reaching that mind blowing O.
“There is nothing better you can do than to really get your head in the game,” says Block. “Forget about work, the laundry, what you’re going to wear to that party and focus on nothing but the sensations you’re experiencing. And definitely don’t give any thought to how you look. Believe me, you look incredibly sexy to the person you’re with. That’s one of the reasons they’re with you!”
Communicate with your lover.
Well have all heard this one before. That is because it really is important to speak up. “If your partner is just few inches above or below where you really like to be touched or if things are too fast, too slow, or just not doing it for you, say something! Trust me, your partner in crime wants to make you feel great, so let him or her know what does and doesn’t work for you,” says Block. “If you find it hard to talk about, try saying things like, ‘I love it when you…’ Or, ‘It would really turn me on if you’d…’ or even ‘Can I show you something?'”
“The human body is designed to move, and motion and vibration really get the female body going,” Block says. Move around more, be active, and put those hips into action. “Lifting your pelvis to meet your partner’s hands or mouth or a toy you might be enough to up the orgasm ante.”
Time isn’t everything.
Naturally, “More time is spent on what works for male partners (penetration) as opposed to what female partners really want and need (clitoral stimulation),” Block explains. So however you do your foreplay, enjoy it- don’t worry about how long it is taking. Just let yourself get swept away in the moment.
Moan. Talk dirty. Whisper. Shout- do whatever comes out or feels good. “Sex is a body/mind/spirit practice,” Block reveals. When you are totally involved, it is much easier to have a big and wonderful O.